So you have won the girlfriend you always dreamed about but do you know you should be doing and more importantly, not sustaining this relationship If not, take some clues from here:
Apart from a few exceptions, women continue to be
the most emotional of all the genders. Periodic and inexplicable bouts of
crying, getting teary-eyed over seemingly regular conversations or becoming
explicitly possessive about your whereabouts is perhaps coded in the female
DNA.
The worst thing you can say during such situations
is preaching her “not to get too emotional”. This is almost parallel to asking
women not to talk that is simply against the rules of human evolution!
2. Talking about how much
money you “really” have & how you handle it
Okay, you are dating the self-driven, contemporary
woman who likes to spend even when you two are together but sometimes it is
wiser to guard your own interest. Agreed, that being and acting rich gives you
a sense of self-worthiness but this doesn't mean you have to be absolutely
honest with how much money you have at your disposal.
Ensure that you don’t divulge details about how
you spend money on your friends or hobbies. Don’t brag about your savings or
how much money you are about to inherit. When it comes to financials, keep it
simple—she doesn’t need to know where it came from and how much more is coming
your way.
3. Relating her behaviour
to her hormonal cycles
Asking your girlfriend whether she is PMS(ing) or
if it is that time of the month again and suggesting this as the reason behind
her irritable behavior can make you look insensitive or inconsiderate.
Menstruation puts forth so many confusing symptoms
that even some women don’t realize that they are already into their next cycle.
So, it is better to refrain from giving wings to the budding doctor inside you
and keep your mouth shut even when it is plainly obvious.
4. Asking about her sexual
past doesn’t help anybody
Yes, everybody thinks about it, i.e. the kind of
sexual experiences your partner has had. However, you need to question
yourself—how does this information really help?
Apart from making you mad with jealousy or making
her extremely uncomfortable, such questions don’t solve any purpose.
5. Commenting about her
make-up free look just isn't cool buddy
The first few dates are bound to bring out the best in her in terms of
how she presents herself. However, you cannot expect her to be the picture of
absolute perfection on every occasion.
She is bound to show-up in her casual, normal
attire where the missing make-up is likely to make her appear a bit less
gorgeous. Accept this as a part of your relationship. Even if you don’t like
it, never comment about it—it will only make you look shallow.
6. Suggesting couple activities that you are not likely to follow
Suggesting things like dieting or exercising
together might seem fun at the outset and the “couple” thing to do but such
commitments can soon become a burden. Apart from members of the extreme
metro-sexual clan, women still emerge as clear winners when it comes to
following self-improvement schedules.
You might commit to such activities with the
thought of exploring how things develop but your girlfriend might already be
counting upon your dedication towards it. Unless, it becomes absolute
unavoidable, abstain from such emotional obligations.
7. Asking about her
self-pleasuring indulgences
As guys, we do it commonly and discuss it among
ourselves with absolutely no hesitation. However, the scenario isn't as
liberating in the female domain and that includes your girlfriend.
Asking about whether she indulges in pleasuring
herself or the frequency of “it” can make the entire conversation go awry apart
from making her feel embarrassed or tongue-tied. Unless you feel this topic
emerging as a natural outcome of a situation or a conversation, stay away from
it.
8. Talking in detail about
your relationships
Many men have committed the eternal sin of detailing
their past love lives, the kind of women they dated and how their past
relationships worked or failed. Yes, you do need to talk about your romantic
liaisons but this doesn’t mean detailing it to the extent that your girlfriend
can start noticing dating or break-up patterns. The idea is to allow her to
know your past but not providing so much information that she can dissect your
psyche.
9. Discriminating her outfits or hair style
No matter how progressive your girl is, her hair
and her choice of clothes are bound to be two things that she will obsess
about—these typical feminine traits had probably started during the Neanderthal
Age and they still exist. Your opinion is valid in itself but never let it
become a critical observation. Restrain the enthusiastic critique in you and it
will probably save you at least a dozen ugly arguments.
10. Making comparisons that
are sure to drive her nuts
There are some comparisons that can literally
drive women crazy. This includes her mother, your mother, your ex, her sister
and her best friend. If you feel like comparing here to someone, pick a
character from a TV series or a movie, at least that doesn’t endanger your
physical well-being!
SUMIT MANWAL